“For someone to develop genuine compassion towards others, first they must have a basis upon which to cultivate compassion. That is the ability to connect to one’s own feelings and care for one’s welfare".
"Caring for others requires caring for oneself.“
- Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th Dalai Lama -
Out of the soil of friendliness (metta)
Grows the bloom of compassion (karuna)
Watered with tears of joy (mudita)
Under the cool shade of the tree of equanimity (upekkha)
is an empirically-supported 8-week program designed to cultivate the skill of self-compassion. Based on pioneering research by Kristin Neff and integrated with the clinical perspective of Christopher Germer, MSC teaches core principles and practices that enable participants to respond to difficult emotions with care and understanding.
The three key components of self-compassion are self-kindness, a sense of common humanity, and balanced, mindful awareness.
Kindness opens our hearts to suffering, so we can give ourselves what we need.
Common humanity opens us to others, so that we know we aren’t alone.
Mindfulness opens us to the present moment, so we can accept our experience with greater ease.
Together they comprise a state of warmhearted, connected, presence during difficult moments in our lives.
can be learned by anyone, even those who didn’t receive enough affection in childhood or who feel uncomfortable when they are good to themselves. It’s a courageous attitude that stands up to harm, including the harm that we inflict on ourselves through self-criticism, self-denial, or self-absorption.
Self-compassion provides emotional strength and resilience, allowing us to admit our shortcomings, forgive ourselves, motivate ourselves with kindness, care for others, and be fully human.
Rapidly expanding research clearly demonstrates that self-compassion is related to emotional wellbeing, lower anxiety and depression, maintenance of healthy habits such as diet and exercise, and more satisfying personal relationships.